11/6/17

Ruffle Hem Tees + Friendship

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I hope you all had an enjoyable weekend! We stayed busy with a neighborhood garage sale, lessons and homework for the kids (I really wish they didn't have homework on the weekend, but the school doesn't seem to share my opinion on that), and volunteer gig at a school event that counted as "date night." Sunday I had a fun brunch that I'm sharing more about below, but as for now here's an outfit of the day.

Top (c/o) | Jeans | Shoes (c/o) | Similar Necklace | Bag (c/o) | Earrings

This top c/o SheIn is only $14 and runs true to size. The top part is t-shirt material so it's very comfortable, and overall a bit more casual than the ruffle hem blouses I've worn (like the burgundy one in this post). I didn't take a close up photo of this top, but ruffle hem is actually light blue stripes. I am really loving the ruffle hem trend because it's so convenient and low fuss! No tucking or adjusting required at all, plus it's just cuter than a plain hem!

There are plenty other options for this type of ruffle-hem t-shirts from brand name to budget-friendly, so if you have a favorite color or retailer in mind you might try one of the options below. Many of these have multiple color options once you click through to the retailer.

1. Shop Lanston Tops (Wrap Ruffle Tee)
2. Shop English Factory Tops (Stripe Knit)
3. Amazon - Under $20 (Five Colors)
4. Amazon  - Under $20
5. Nordstrom $39
6. Nordstrom $49
7. Nordstrom $54
8. Nordstrom $36 (On sale)

As for the other pieces of this outfit, I took my normal size in both jeans and shoes.
Top (c/o) | Jeans | Shoes (c/o) | Similar Necklace | Bag (c/o) | Earrings

Monday Motivation: Friendship
In the past couple of months I've shared some happiness-seeking thoughts (first here followed by this one) and one of the recurring themes in all of the books and articles I've read is that relationships are essential to happiness. I'm fortunate to have good relationships with my husband, kids, and extended family, but true friendships, specifically with people that live close enough for me to see them on a regular basis, have been the most challenging relationships for me to find as an adult.

The Happiness Hypothesis is the best book I've read on the topic of what truly makes people happy, and it goes into detail about the importance of relationships. On the author's website, there's a practical checklist for How to Become Happier. One of his tips about friendship struck a chord with me and I decided to act on it right away before I lost my motivation. The whole article is worth the read, but here's the particular quote that gave me a push:

"Try to create a group of friends who do things together. Many of us see individual friends for meals, or a drink, at which we catch up with each others lives. But how much more fun it is to have a gang -- as on so many television shows -- who gets together weekly or monthly to share an activity (e.g., cooking, playing cards, making wisecracks about a TV show). We are fundamentally tribal creatures; we feel most complete in packs, gangs, and groups. If you don't have a gang, start with one or two friends and ask them to invite one or two of their friends to an activity you organize."

As much as I value strong friendships, I have to admit I haven't been proactive lately about seeking them or organizing many events with my existing friendships. This article was just the motivation I needed to organize a monthly brunch with three of my local friends. We all used to take a dance class together, but I haven't been able to take any classes myself lately due to kids' schedules, and the other girls have their own scheduling conflicts. I hated to lose touch with them and they all felt the same, so we're setting the first Sunday of the month as our recurring brunch date. I'm sure there will be plenty of months where 1-2 people have a conflict (one friend already had to miss the first month), but we're keeping the date on the calendar and as long as any two people can go, it's on.

The first brunch was a success and I'm looking forward to more of these, but still working on ways to make new friends and especially couple friends so my husband isn't excluded from my social life. That could probably be a post in and of itself I'm sure, but I would love to hear your thoughts on adult friendship! Are you one of those people who live in the same town where you grew up and still get together with your friends from high school or college? Or if you've moved a lot (like myself), what have you struggled with feeling like an outsider to those pre-established groups? What's worked for you to make friends as an adult? I always get the best insights from your comments so I can't wait to hear what you have to say on this one!


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  2. You look amazing! Love your bag!!!
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    Mónica Sors
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    1. Thank you Monica! I'm getting plenty of use out of this bag!

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  3. First love this ruffle sweater, such a cute Fall look. This is such a great idea, I would love to have a gang but everybody have different schedules and stuff. Just like the other said I have friends with whom I do occasional dinners but I don't have a gang. That's a great goal and I'm happy the first brunch was a success.

    xo
    Pinksole

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    1. It is practically impossible to coordinate schedules for more than two people these days! Someone always has a conflict. We finally decided if we waited for everyone to be free this would never happen, so we'll carry on with those who can. Hope we keep it up!

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    2. It seems like you've designed your brunches for success! So often people postpone when it gets down to only 2 being able to attend. I've thought it would be fun to form a dinner club, but I worried nobody would show if only 1 of the 3 families involved could attend. Now, I have your approach to present to the group! Regarding new friendships in adulthood, that's a tough one. Since you have school age children, you might try volunteering at school or setting up play dates or trips to the park to get to know other parents.

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  4. Beautiful! Love the top!
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  5. I love this! I have a monthly girls dinner that I started three years ago after reading a similar book, and it has truly become one of all of our favorite things. We intentionally all go around the table and share what is really going on in our lives so that we are truly staying connected rather than just surface level chit-chatting. Now about your outfit: love that ruffle hem top! The booties are so cute too.

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

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    1. That is so impressive and inspiring that you have kept up your dinner for three years! I also love that you go into more "real talk." Hopefully my little group can follow suit!

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  6. Oh I am loving this top, the detailing on the bottom is so good. Plus, you totally cannot beat that price!
    I have been looking for a new book, and you always have some great recommendations! Especially one that would be a bit more positive!

    Denise | Fashion Love Letters

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  7. Cute top, so versatile. Love it.

    Kara Aragon
    http://www.thekaragon.com

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  8. Once I became a parent, friendships definitely became harder and harder to maintain so I understand what you mean. Having a group that does outings sounds like a wonderful idea!

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    1. In my group, I'm the only one with children so I can't help but think this would be nearly impossible if everyone had kids! It certainly does impact the schedule!

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    2. As the kids get older it becomes more difficult to socialize, but starting early and creating rituals with certain families can be such a comfort to all involved! Family movie or game night, with pizza or burgers on the grill can lead to lifelong friendships. It really is so difficult.

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  9. First, I love your outfit! That bag is such a gorgeous classic for Fall!

    And I know we have talked about this before, but I totally agree on the importance of friendships. I wish I could see you and Katie more often, but San Diego sometimes feels like it’s a world away! I see my “gang” much more often because they are all guys that nate grew up with. Now that everyone’s married it’s much easier to get together as a group. Luckily I like nate’s friends and their wives :) But it’s super tough to make friends as an adult!

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    1. LOL, yes it is lucky that you get along with his friends' wives! And yes, amazing how much more challenging a 45 minute drive makes for getting together! We STILL need to get that date night on the calendar sometime!

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  10. I agree that making friends as adult is tough. I have developed some great friendship through Cross fit & running. It is tough to keep in touch outside of these environments.

    Alice IG @Happinessatmidlife

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    1. It's great that you have those activities to help you form friendships! I am looking for something new that works with my current schedule because I do think those things help a LOT in the friendship department!

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  11. Great styling dear.
    I love the top!

    Much Love,
    Zarrah | The Bandwagon Chic

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  12. you look amazing and love your purple bag
    kiss

    https://fashionbyjeje.com/

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    1. Thanks so much! It's my favorite color and I've been surprised by how many outfits go with it!

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  13. What a fabulous top, Gina, and for an incredible deal!!
    Thanks for linking up with the Ageless Style Party!!
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    Jodie
    www.jtouchofstyle.com

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  14. that top is super cute! and love the boots. you looked like you did pretty well at your garage sale!
    making friends as an adult is super hard. i have a few online friends i consider real friends, but you know, they are online and not in my city or whatever. i have probably 1 true friend in my city and we definitely do lots of one on one things, which is great and all, but sometimes i crave more. she has a BUNCH of friends though and always invites me to things (and took me under her wing for the book club, which is at least something group like you know?) but still. i want my own friendship group or at least 1 more friend lol. i have 2 other friends i consider true friends and all, but i don't see them often at all. the thing i find hardest is that all 3 of them are like you said, in the same town that they grew up in and they've all known each other since they were kids. i just don't have that, never have. my brother in law recently (as in the last 3 years lol) moved back here so we hang out with him and his (now) fiance sometimes but not as often as i'd like. anyway. sorry for the ramble. it's something i think/stress/wish for/worry about a lot.

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    1. I know exactly what you mean! I have had a few acquaintances try to bring me into their existing friendship group...and I always feel like a third wheel. This is not to say that I don't appreciate the kindness on the part of that acquaintance who is trying to include me and make me feel welcome - I do! But there's just a difference between being a primary group member and someone's Plus One. And your rambling is always welcome here. :) Glad you can relate on this!

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  15. I love the ruffles! They are so cute and look amazing on you. And I totally agree with you - engaging relationships foster so much joy in our lives. It can be hectic sometimes to take time out of our busy lives (especially as moms!) but it does so much for the soul.
    xo

    www.katrinagwenrose.com

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    1. Agree! That was another point in The Happiness Hypothesis - even introverts feel happier after a positive interaction with their friendship group. It's worth making the time for it. :)

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  16. Great thoughts! Good for you for establishing a regular brunch date. I find it difficult to make genuine adult connections too. Chit chat is easy. But anything deeper seems to be A LOT more challenging. Hope you ladies can stick with it and it will be fun and meaningful for you!

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    1. Thanks Heidi! It's nice to hear that you've struggled with the same thing as far as making deeper connections. Not that I would wish that on you! LOL! Just that knowing how friendly you are in person I wouldn't expect that to be the case, so if it's difficult for you, it's probably difficult for a lot of people!

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  17. I'm so into ruffle tops as they're so pretty. I've had one from Delphine Label and love it. I really like the one you're wearing, very nice for the festive season as well.

    Would love to connect at http://the-wardrobe-stylist.com/2017/11/08/designer-anarkali-suits/

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