6/5/17

White Denim Jacket + Abstain vs. Moderate

|
It's the last week of school here and we are so excited for summer break! I'm hoping that summer weather will be joining us here to accompany summer break, but San Diego weather has mainly been living up to its "May Gray" and "June Gloom" reputation, so an extra jacket or cardigan layer is essential. I've been wanting a casual white jacket for awhile, but when I searched around, there were hardly any options aside from a white denim jacket. I wasn't too sure about that particular option at first, but Pinterest convinced me it was a solid option (assuming you don't mind dressing like a supermodel) as you'll see below!

Front View:
Jacket: 6pm | Tee: Express | Jeans: Express | Necklace: Stella & Dot (Gift, Similar) | Bracelet: Charmed Stacks (Use code: onthedailyx for 10% off!)| Shoes: Dolce Vita c/o Amazon | Bag: Sole Society

Outfit Notes:
Once I decided I was ready to take the plunge on a white denim jacket, I went straight to Mavi, because they made my light blue denim jacket (see it here), and the cut and fit of that one is perfect. It wasn't the most affordable option but it's been well worth the splurge. Sure enough, Mavi makes the same style of jacket in white, and it was $98 on both the Mavi site and at Macy's. I was thinking I could wait for a Macy's coupon code and get a decent deal, but then I stumbled across the exact jacket at 6pm for $65 with free shipping! The risk was that I would have to pay return shipping if it didn't work out (vs. free returns in-store to Macy's), but I was willing to take the risk for such significant savings. Luckily I didn't have to return it because it fit true to size and is just what I wanted. It's very soft and comfortable and has plenty of stretch for easy movement. If you're considering a white denim jacket I highly recommend this one!

Front View:

Shop the Look:


I knew that a white jacket would go with plenty of things in my closet, but I just wasn't sure if they were "in" anymore. Or are they a classic piece like a regular denim jacket? I couldn't decide for myself, so I was encouraged to find that models like Gigi Hadid and Kate Upton (below), who are always on-trend are currently wearing white denim jackets. Better yet they are outfits that can be fairly easily duplicated, so I may try one of these combos next time:

If you're on the fence about a white denim jacket I pinned a few more current outfit ideas to this Pinterest board. Most of them can be easily re-created with wardrobe basics, and this one inspired my own outfit above!

Monday Motivation: Abstain vs. Moderate
Last week, I had an fun full-circle moment. I just finished listening to the Audible version of Better than Before, by Gretchen Rubin. It's all about how different types of people respond and adapt differently to habit change attempts, and how to go about changing our habits (based on the type of person that we are) so we ultimately become "better than before." I'll review it more in my June book reviews, but there was a part of this book where she talked about Moderators vs. Abstainers (her blog also has a similar breakdown if you are interested in learning more) that's helping me with time management right now. Some people are better off taking a moderate approach (e.g. "I'm allowed to have one cupcake once a week), other people are better abstaining entirely (e.g. "I don't eat cupcakes at all because if I try to have one, I end up eating a dozen.)
Image + Book via Amazon

I was nodding my head in agreement with that segment of the book, but it was also ringing some blogger bells. I remembered reading a blog post along similar lines, and sure enough, Kristen had posted about this topic. Her post was inspired by this post, and (you guessed it) that post was inspired by the book Better than Before! VoilĂ ! Full Circle.

So getting back to the point, every Monday (almost!) I post a little bit here about my ongoing attempt to stay motivated to work on my self-improvement goals. Time management is a constant focus for me, and social media is one of the obstacles that slows me down.  Last week I mentioned needing to cut back on social media time (at least temporarily) to keep up with some real-life demands, and Instagram Stories were first thing on the chopping block. They are my most time consuming form of social media, and I knew I needed to set some limits. It's too easy to start watching one story and let the whole feed loop through. Plus, I don't know about you, but it bothers me aesthetically to have some of those little story circles at the top show "Full" while others are "Empty." I like them all to look the same!

The book reminded me about the moderator vs. abstainer characteristics, but I don't think I fall into one set category every time. I think both strategies work for me depending on the issue, and sometimes I have to try both to see what sticks. I am a good moderator at some things (e.g. if I tell myself I'm only going to have two cookies, I can stick to those two cookies). But with other things, I'm not good at moderating and it's just easier to abstain entirely. Ice cream falls in that category for me. It's easier for me to not taste it at all than it is to start eating and find a good place to stop, because I always seem to want one more bite!

It seems that Instagram Stories is my Ice Cream of social media. I decided to try abstaining from it last week, and while it was tempting to watch the stories of "just my close blog/IG friends" or "just that one blogger who seems like someone I would be friends with in real life," I didn't. I knew if I started I would get sucked into one or two more stories and then I'd want all the circles to be the same again, so I'd go through the whole feed. So I just didn't start. And you know, it felt really good. I felt back in control. Initially I had plenty of FOMO (what if they show a really cute outfit? What if they say something interesting and controversial!), but it subsided quickly as I filled my time with other things I actually needed to be doing or even just reading a book when I wanted to relax. I felt like I was using my time more wisely, and since I wasn't cut off from social media entirely, I was still able to get my social fix.

I'm not saying this is a change that everyone needs to make or even a permanent one for me. But it's one I needed to make at least temporarily to accommodate my real life commitments. So far it's working and I need to continue at least through this week!

If you've tried moderating or abstaining from social media or any other vices, I'd love to hear about your experience and what strategies worked for you...or didn't!


Linking up with:

CONVERSATION

11 comments:

  1. first, love your new jacket, it is perfect for Summer. This book sounds interesting, I'm mostly a moderator but for things like Social Media I'm an Abstainer when I want to get things done. For example certain times of the day I usually put my phone on silence so that I can focus on my task and don't get disrupted.

    xo
    Pinksole

    ReplyDelete
  2. This is so interesting to read. I loved that book and it turned me into a huge Gretchen Rubin fan. I've discovered I'm an abstainer when it comes to the eating thing. For the longest time I told myself I was a moderator, but I was just making an excuse to eat treats....which turned into a dozen. I've done so much better taking an abstainer approach. But with social media, which is such a time suck, I'm a complete moderator. I can watch one or two and skip the rest. I would never have even thought to apply the principals to social media. That's such an interesting application of the concept. You should call Gretchen's voicemail. She'll probably mention you in a podcast....which you could then play on your instagram stories.

    ReplyDelete
  3. I've been wanting to read that book and now I'm looking forward to it even more. It's hard not to get soaked into social media. I make it a point not to open Instagram on the weekends and it's been working for me.

    Jill
    Doused In Pink

    ReplyDelete
  4. I think I definitely fall into the moderator category for most things though if I absolutely have no time for life, I can quickly start abstaining, even if it's not intentional. I automatically have a mental block on things that aren't critical and unfortunately the blog and social media are the first to go. But those are usually extreme and forced situations :) I'm glad you found a jacket that works! It looks great in you and I love your style inspo you pinned!
    Caryl | http://morepiecesofme.com

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Also- I LOL at you wanting to have your IG stories icons all be full or not full. If you just watch one persons stories, you can "swipe down" to refresh and that bumps the watched story away leaving only unwatched stories. That keeps them all full for you for the ones you don't want to watch! Not that I'm trying to sway you to watch, but just FYI!

      Delete
    2. Oh that's a great tip!! I will definitely try it next week when I attempt to return to the "moderation" mode!!

      Delete
  5. Great topic Gina! As you know I don't really watch or create insta stories because I'm annoyingly loyal to Snapchat. Instagram in general takes up a lot of time! I try not to look at it too often but some days are better than others.
    I love your white jacket! I think they are here to stay :)

    ReplyDelete
  6. Love the white jacket! Maybe I can even wear it to church in summer when the building is always freezing! I'm reading Better Than Before right now, but having a harder time to get through it just because of her way of writing. But I'm like you - abstain on some things, moderate on others. As for social media, I've realized for me it's best to use it to keep in touch with family and close friends. It can definitely take up a ton of time! I love reading your thoughts on motivation though.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Love your white denim jacket outfit you put together! A white jean jacket isn't something I would normally go for, but I think you sold me!

    ReplyDelete
  8. That white denim jacket is such a chic alternative to a typical jean one! And you found it for such a deal! I get nervous about buying things I might have to pay return shipping for too. I consider any shipping costs to be part of the price and I hate being out money if I didn't like something! I'm glad it all worked out for you! Can't wait to see how else you wear it!

    ReplyDelete
  9. First off, that white denim jacket is a stunner! Love it. Secondly, I think I might be an abstainer- if I get a little taste of something I'm trying to limit, I tend to go off the rails, lol.

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

    ReplyDelete

Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a comment! I sincerely appreciate each and every one and always do my best to answer questions promptly! Also, due to a recent influx of Spam unfortunately I've had to turn comment moderation back on. Apologies for the inconvenience!